Fathers do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
It’s no surprise that the insights from brain science “rediscover” the wisdom found in God’s word. For example, we know when a child is screaming and crying that this is not the time to “teach a lesson” on manners. Another translation reads, “Do not provoke your children to anger.” The child is in what researchers call the “red zone” where strong feelings take over and reasoning becomes totally ineffective. Instead, the child must be helped back into the “green zone”, a state of calm and security.
Though this scripture addresses fathers, the principle applies to many of us. The key to helping a child return to and stay in the green zone is our practice of doing the same as parents or as people generally. Every morning and evening, try praying the Shepherd’s Psalm (Psalm 23) as a way of entering and staying in the “green pastures” of the Lord’s goodness. Then you will be able to invite your children (and others) to come into these peaceful calm spaces as well.
Lord, I need your help in helping my children, grandchildren, family members and friends know your ways. Lead me today to green pastures beside still waters. In your grace and mercy restore my soul.